Friday, August 21, 2009

The Love of Bad News

The love of bad news? Who in the world would love bad news? Apparently, lots of people, they just wouldn’t use the word love. They are the people who look for the negative and enjoy spreading it around. The seeking of what’s bad can cause a good life look like a life of hardship and constant struggle. Let me explain what I’m talking about and discuss what you can do if you’ve fallen into this seeking of bad news trap.

What's The Love of Bad News?
newspaperI remember taking a speech class in high school where the teacher would ask the class to talk about a current event at the beginning of each session. We had to also tell her why we chose that event or story to tell.

I remember one particular day when she forced me to volunteer since I almost never spoke up in class being the shy student that I was. I told a story in the news about a dog who ended up saving a kid from drowning and that my reason for telling that story was because everyone else's current event or story was negative.

What she said afterward stuck with me ever since. She said stories with good ending are cute but no one cares about those types of stories when it comes to news. Bad news is what sells. She then went on to actually say she enjoys bad news and sometimes secretly jumps for joy when something big and terrible happens. She had the love of bad news.

The Power of Bad News

Now, you can read this and think how horrible of a person she is. How could she have the heart to actually hope for bad things to happen? Well, facts are facts. Bad news does sell way more than good news.

bad economyIf you were walking down the street and happened to glance at the news stand and saw the headline say "The Circus is Coming Into Town", you’ll probably just go on your way unless if you wanted to know more. But what if instead the headline was "The Greatest Tragedy to Hit in Decades", wouldn’t you at least be curious?

You know what they say, "bad news travels fast". It’s as if people crave for bad news to have something exciting to talk about. Perhaps that’s the reason why my speech teacher had this love for bad news.

Okay, so bad news sells, travels fast, and catches people’s attention. So what’s the point? The point is this. It’s easier to notice and think about the bad things going on in your life compared to the good things going on in your life since the negative things in the world seem to be more plentiful than the good things.

Bad News Influence

If you look at what’s going on in the world today, would you be able to name 10 things to be depressed or worried about? Of course you can. But then again, in the mid 90’s when things were going well, you still could’ve come up with 10 things. You see, it doesn’t matter what happens around the world or in your personal life, what matters is what you choose to focus on. Keep looking for crap in your life, and you’ll be sure to find it.

Being able to control what you focus on can mean the difference between living a happy life and living one of despair. The problem is with so much negativity in the media, we almost get conditioned to look for what’s bad or shocking or news worthy in our own lives to focus on.

That’s why many successful people advise to stop watching TV or at least stop watching the news. The main reason is that as more and more negativity enters your mind, eventually more and more negativity will start coming out of you. On top of that, the more negativity you feed yourself, the more you’ll tend to crave it and look for it.

Focus = Reality

Now let’s put this love of bad news into a more personal context. What do you tend to focus on more in your life? Do you look for what’s bad or what’s good? Do you focus more on things that you can complain to people about or things that you’re proud of and make you feel good? Is the concentration on things that empowers you or disempowers you?

flat tireYou could have a wonderful spouse, adorable kids, the perfect job, and a dozen of other things to be absolutely ecstatic about then get a flat tire and think about how bad you’ve got it couldn’t you? Let’s look at it the opposite way. Can someone who has the worse of luck in life to most people’s standards be happy? Yes.

It doesn’t matter how bad of a life you’ve had. You could always find something to be happy about if you choose to. Look, anyone could feel miserable about their life if they wanted to, even those who seem to have everything.

Just look at the famous people who had all the wealth and fame most people could only dream about but ended up taking their own lives. On the other hand, you can visit third world countries and find people who are just fun loving and happy even though they have practically nothing.

Now if you’re depressed about your life, I’m not saying you don’t have the right to be. You have the right to feel however you choose to feel. If you want to feel like life has dealt you a bad hand and that nothing is good in your life, feel free. I don’t know why anyone would choose to feel that way, but if it makes for a more interesting conversation with your friends and strangers or to have a pity party, be my guest. Just realize you chose to feel that way by choosing what to focus on.

The Unwinnable Debate

With all the negativity in the media, focusing on what’s good in your life could be a challenge at times. After all, how many people get into debates about how bad they have it compared to their peers?

"So you lost your job? That’s nothing. At least you still have your house. I lost both!"

"I only wish I were in your guys’ shoes. I’m going through a divorce. Losing a house and job is nothing."

It’s a weird contest people get into. It’s like for a moment, they actually feel better about their life because they have it worse than someone else. It’s a contest no one wins.

What's Good In Your Life?

While the love of bad news is all around us with the majority predicting doom and gloom for the world’s economy at the time, there are plenty of people who are feeling happy and grateful. There are people getting new jobs, buying their first home, getting married, starting a family, or starting a business.

There will always be something to feel bad about. You don’t need the news to add to your list of negative things. This love of bad news, whether it’s from the television or newspaper or gossip from your co-workers or friends, will have a negative effect on how you feel. You may not exactly have a love of bad news, but if you’re seeking it out and focusing on it whether consciously or unconsciously, then the results are the same.

binocularLearn to focus on what’s good in your life. There’s always something you could be grateful about now matter how badly you have it. If you are reading this, you can be happy and grateful that you could see and read. You could be happy that you have access to the internet. You could be happy that you have fingers to type with.

If you seek, you shall find. Look for what’s good and you’ll find it. Look for what’s bad, and you’ll find it. Here’s something to think about. What we look for and find, we will tend to find even more of it. The more you focus on what’s good in your life, the more good things will come into your life for you to feel good about.

Unfortunately, the opposite is also true. The more you focus on what’s bad in your life, the more bad things will come into your life for you to feel bad about. The more "bad news" you focus on in your life, the more "bad news" will tend to occur for you.

So what do you do to snap out of this love of bad news hypnotism? Change your focus.

Life is Short

Surprise! Life Has an Ending (my life is short rant)...

Life is Short

Life is short! Don't sell your soul, life, and time for money for too long of a period. Don't let little things get in your way of what you really want to do with your life. Stop making excuses about why you can't do something. If you really want something, you got to go and get it. Let go of your "should's" and make your dreams a "must". Until you do that, your dreams will stay just that, a dream and won't become reality.

Life is to be experience and enjoyed. Life is not meant to be spent something you don't want to do your whole life. Plan out your life so that you can soon do what you want, and work because you want to not because you have to, that is, if you even decide to work.

Everyone is looking for one thing in life: Happiness. So why is it that most people want to cling to things that make them unhappy? The answer is FEAR. Fear of losing that sense of security, which for most of us, is a false sense of security.

Because life is short, you need to quit doing what the average person does or you will end up living a life that average people live. Be a kid again and dream big. Don't let the limitations of your income bring your dreams down. Plan your life in a way that will let you experience those dreams. By doing so you will inspire those around you.

Don't get caught up in making a living instead of designing your life. Don't be one of those people who wake up one day when they're old and say to themselves "what happened to my life?" Letting the little things in life get in the way of big things in life is foolish.

You're probably thinking one of three things at this point (that is if you've read this far). One is "life is short, blah blah blah, easy for this guy to say, he doesn't know me, he doesn't know how complicated and hard my life is". Two: "Eh, I'm cool where I am right now, I might not being living my dreams, but I'm comfortable". Three: "I understand where he's getting at, but even if I wanted to live out my dreams, I wouldn't know where to start".

1. Whatever you're facing or going through, there are millions of people who have it worse than you. Stop complaining about circumstances. Circumstances happen to everyone, it's what you do about it that matters. If you keep complaining, you will only end up living a life worth complaining about.

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2. Being in the middle is probably the worse place to be. You're not living the life you want to live but your life is not bad enough for you to do anything about it. This is where most dreams are destroyed and lives are ruined. We get comfortable. We start rationalizing "it's not that bad, I have it better than a lot of the people I know".

If you want to be average, keep rationalizing. If you want to live your dreams, be honest with yourself. Don't be like the dog that whines because he's lying on a nail but doesn't do anything about it because it doesn't hurt enough. Jump on that damn nail as hard as you can so that it will wake you up and get you moving towards the life you really want to live.

3. Everything starts with you. For things to change, you must change. As long as you have strong enough reasons why you MUST live the life you dream of, the "how-to" will eventually come to you. That determination and undeniable belief that WILL live your dreams will soon attract people into your life who can help you get to where you want to be. Start surrounding yourself with people who will encourage you and who can see you for who you can become instead of just who you are today.

Negative people are energy drainers, dream stealers, life destroyers and you should get as far away from them as possible. Your life will never far exceed the expectations from your peer group. Want to know how your life will turn out, look at your friends. If you don't like what you see, get new friends.

In closing, never forget that life is short. Tomorrow was never promised. No one ever said you will still be alive 5 years from now, or even 3 months from now. The more time you spend on doing things you don't like, the less time you will have doing the things you enjoy. What ever it is you want to do in life, start today, don't delay, make a plan and start right now!

Until next time…

Love Life. Do Good. Live Well.

Brain Machine Interface (BMI)

Check out this video about a Brain Machine Interface technology that allows humans to control robots / machines with their mind! This is a collaborated project that involved Honda to further advance technology. What is possible? What can humans achieve? Who really knows? With enough time, what CAN'T we achieve?

There is already technology for an amputee to move a synthetic arm using his thoughts. Can you imagine someone playing a piano with synthetic hands using his mind? Of course, with this kind of technology, there will be people bringing up scenerios in movies where robots take over the world. Let's not be too original in our thinking here. :)

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The point of sharing this video is to show you that what ever it is you feel may be limiting you from achieving your goals, realize that you really don't know what you're truly capable of. Think back at the times in your life when you ended up doing something that at first you thought was impossible but is now as easy as chewing gum. Don't place limits on yourself that most likely don't even exist. Believe and trust in your ability to accomplish any goal you have a burning desire for.

Too many times we erroneously place limits on ourselves due to past failures and believe that these limits are set in stone. Just because a past experience "proves" you failed at something, doesn't mean that you will continue to fail if you took another shot at it.

If you have a hard time believing in yourself, that you can do great things and live the life of your dreams, then just put your belief in the human race and that if some human somewhere can accomplish a goal you're striving for, it's proof that you can too. The most successful people truly believe that if someone else can do something, to them, it's evidence that they can too.

How to Make Excuses

A really hilarious article by Kevin Ngo....I've actually started liking his articles I think.. :)

December 23rd, 2008 by Kevin Ngo

I thought I’d change up the tone a bit and write about how to make excuses. Previously I wrote about setting and achieving goals. I thought it'd just make sense to now write about making excuses because it will come up.

We all make them from time to time. Some small, some big, some unimportant, some very important. This isn’t your typical “Why you shouldn’t make excuses” post. It’s really about how to make excuses. Wait, aren’t we NOT suppose to make excuses? Technically yes. But many of us do anyway. Since that’s the case, let’s take these excuses to the next level.

You might not call them excuses. You might call them reasons or justifications. What are excuses? Simply put, excuses are reasons for not doing something. They come out of a lack or perceived lack of resources.

I don’t have time. I’m too tired (not enough energy). I don’t have enough money. I’m too young. I’m too old. I don’t have the contacts. The economy is bad and I have negative relatives (not enough support). I’m not good enough, smart enough, tall enough, outgoing enough, attractive enough... you get the idea.

Anyone and everyone can come up with a handful of excuses as to why they can’t do something. The difference between whether you succeed or fail in achieving your goals is how you use those excuses. Whether you’re using them to get closer to your goals or further away from them, make them big. Yes, you read correctly, make them big even if it’s moving you away from your goals.

Look, if you’re going to make excuses anyway, if you’re going to limit yourself and put yourself down, you might as well go all out. Don’t half-ass it. If you’ve been half-assing your whole life, do yourself a favor and go full-assed on this so you can at least say you gave it your all in something.

If you’re always going to come up with excuses to why you can’t achieve your goals, then at least make them ridiculous so you can at least say what you had to face was huge and unique so people can understand why there was absolutely no way you could achieve any goal you have ever set or ever will set.

Examples of how to make excuses.

checkmarkNot only do I not have enough money to start my business, I owe so many people money that if I had the money to pay them back, the entire economy would actually turn around.

checkmarkNot only do I not know enough people for connections, not even Tom from Myspace would accept me as a friend.

checkmarkNot only can I not stop eating, I’m forced to install a machine that injects chocolate into my mouth through a tube nonstop 24/7. Otherwise I’ll die.

checkmarkNot only do I not have enough time, I have so much to do on any given day that I have to wear diapers just so I have spare time to eat.

checkmarkNot only am I too shy to actually do much in life, I actually experience those awkward silences with myself when I stand in front of a mirror. I mean, I just never know what to say to the guy.

checkmarkNot only can I not read, I’m looking at this list and wondering why there aren’t any pictures of the foods I want to order.

checkmarkNot only am I not lucky enough to succeed, if I got into the funeral business, people would actually stop dying.

You may say those excuses are just lies, way too exaggerated. Fine, then here's a list on how to make excuses based on pure "facts".

Examples of excuses based on "facts".

checkmarkI’m not smart enough to succeed. There is no proof in the history of mankind of someone with no formal education or no ability to read or write ever becoming successful.

checkmarkI don’t have enough money to start a business. Everyone that has ever started a business of any kind already had money from the get go.

checkmarkI can’t go far in life because I grew up in dysfunctional family. Everyone that has gone far in life had come from a perfect family.

checkmarkI came from a poor background, I’ll never be wealthy. Every one of those wealthy people was born into wealthy families. None of them were self-made.

checkmarkLife seems to be against me, I have the worse luck. No one who has it as bad as me could possibly become successful, it’s impossible.

checkmarkI’m not attractive enough to attract anyone decent. Looks is everything to everyone.

checkmarkI can’t do what I’m passionate about because I’m stuck at a job I hate but need because it pays my bills. No one with a full time job ever had time on the side to follow their passion. Once you’re stuck with a job you need to survive, goodbye dreams.

checkmarkI’m too old to do much with my life. Everyone who’s done much with their life did it when they were young, strong, and beautiful.

checkmarkI never received the love I needed to have confidence in myself. Everyone who has succeeded was loved unconditionally and was never discouraged, ridiculed, or put down by anyone.

checkmarkI can’t live my dreams because of my race. No one in my race has amounted to anything. Not one.

checkmarkI can’t make money in this economy. Not a single honest person can do it.

I realize this list of how to make excuses is an exaggeration. The point is that anyone can come up with valid excuses not to do anything. Excuses are evidence that you don’t really want something bad enough or there’s not a tight enough deadline. Excuses are justifications to why you didn’t do, aren’t doing, or not going to do something.

Pick someone successful and see if you can come up with excuses on why they “could’ve” NOT been successful.

  • Barak Obama isn’t white.

  • Michael Jordan wasn’t good enough to make the team the first year he tried out.

  • Jim Carrey growing up was poor where at one point his family lived in a van.

  • Og Mandino was on the brink of suicide.

  • Oprah had a traumatizing childhood.

  • Lance Armstrong had testicular cancer.

  • Nelson Mandela was held in prison for 27 years.
And on and on... there are tons of these stories.

They could've easily written a post on how to make excuses with the circumstances they had. These individuals took something most people would use as justifications to be average and turned them into an incredible inner drive and used their “misfortune” to soar.

What excuses do you keep using?

Ask yourself if these people were in your situation, what would they do? Would they continue to make excuses or would they make their life the way they want regardless of the circumstances?

Here’s an idea. How about making excuses on why you can’t give up? Make a list of how to make excuses on why you can’t fail or why you can’t settle for less. If you’re going to make excuses, make them on the right things. Your lack of resources in this case would be things like your time being limited, so you have to make the most out of your life.

So feel free to make excuses, the bigger and more frequently, the better. Just make sure you’re excusing yourself into the life you truly want instead of excusing yourself out of it.

How to Create Lasting Motivation to Workout

Another good article .......
March 14th, 2009 by Kevin Ngo

Do you need motivation to workout? Have you constantly been "starting over?" Are you sick of this endless cycle? I know how it is. I figured out how to end this frustrating cycle and produced the physical results I would only dream of before. I found out how to have lasting motivation to workout. Let me show you how.

My Struggle and Triumph

For years, I would start a workout routine only to "take a break" and start over again several months later. I would workout for about 2-3 months, not see much results, and stop. Once I got too out of shape, I would get determined to start working out again only to stop a few months later. This went on for about 4-5 years. Does this sound familiar?

Fortunately, this all changed about 2 years ago when I started applying these strategies I’m about to share with you.

Just so you know, unlike most people, my challenge wasn’t to lose weight, it was to gain weight. Growing up I was always skinny. You know when you’re skinny when people say things like, "When was the last time you’ve had a decent meal?" or, "Let me get you something to eat" out of nowhere.

So what happened? How come I kept failing to keep up with a workout routine for 5 years? Wouldn’t being skinny enough for people to think I just came to the US from a 3rd world country enough motivation to stick with a weight gain plan? Apparently not.

It wasn’t until I did the things I’m about to tell you that I went from struggling just to gain a few pounds a year to gaining 25 lbs of mostly muscle in 3 months. By the way, I didn’t go out and eat everything I saw. In fact, I cut out all fatty and junk food. Yes, I gained weight while sticking to healthy foods.

Now if your motivation to workout is to lose weight, don’t worry, this will work for you as well.

I won’t be writing about what I ate or what workout routine I used. What I’ll be writing about is the mental changes that took place and the strategies I used to make working out become a habit. So lose weight or gain weight, the same strategies will apply.

Let me start with the main reasons why people have trouble with having the motivation to workout in the first place.

Why People Stop Working Out

The problem with working out for most people is that after some time, the motivation to workout dries out. The following are the most common reasons:

Wrong strategy

With so much information out there, this really shouldn’t be a problem. The basic formula to lose weight is to eat less calories than you burn or burn more calories than you eat. To gain weight, it’s the opposite. If you the motivation to workout everyday but eat more calories than you're burning, you're going to be disappointed.

As long as you don’t buy into those quick-results-with-no-work-and-eat-anything-you-want schemes, you should be fine.

Lack of results

Too many people start working out with the expectation of some amazing result in too short of a time span. So when results don’t meet up to their expectations, they get discouraged and quit.

Slowed progress

Thinking that your results will stay consistent will just end up disappointing you. In the beginning, you may have some great results. You may lose 5-10 pounds your very first week. But as the weeks go by, you will find yourself losing less and less. Not knowing this in advance can be very discouraging when it happens.

Hitting a plateau

When you start working out, your results will be very encouraging. Your motivation to workout will increase as you see these amazing results. However, sooner or later, you will hit what’s known as a plateau. Athletes experience this all the time. You get to the point where results not only slow down, it actually stops. This can definitely be pretty frustrating.

Satisfaction

This is when you get to the point where you’ve loss enough weight to where you feel satisfied. You’re not where you want to be at but it’s not bad enough for you to want to do much about it. At this point, your motivation to workout may drop since your reason for working out is no longer strong enough. You may stop working out all together until your body gets to a point where it causes your motivation to workout to increase again and you start to workout again.

All of the above reasons that cause most people to quit working out happened to me over the years and have caused my motivation to workout deteriorate, but I’ve figured out how to overcome all of them. So let me share those strategies with you now.

How to Have Lasting Motivation to Workout

1. Have the right mindset

Without the right mindset, you will be facing unnecessary difficulties. Realize that anything worth striving for will be challenging. Go into this with massive determination and focus.

When you take this seriously, your motivation to workout will automatically increase. Have the mentality of a warrior. Know that internal enemies will constantly try to stop you, those internal voices that tell you to quit. Be prepared for battle and take them down.

2. Have Intense Desire

If you’re merely interested in working out, it’s going to be difficult to do it long enough for it to be a habit. Your desire to workout and get the body you want has to be greater than any reason that may come up to make you quit.

Write down why you want to workout. Why do you want to lose that weight? Why do you want to be fit? The more reasons you have that hit you emotionally, the greater your desire will be.

My motivation to workout was that I just hated being skinny. I also wanted to inspire others by succeeding in this goal. If I could do it, they could do it. But more importantly, I had to prove to myself that I had the mental abilities to push myself through any challenge that tried to stand in my way. I was sick of failing to accomplish this goal.

You see, for the longest time, I had this belief that being skinny, for me, was genetic. I was born a month premature and read somewhere that the body type I had pretty much made me destined to stay skinny. I had to shatter this genetic, destined to be skinny belief because I knew if I did, many other limiting beliefs I had about myself would also be destroyed. I basically put everything into this goal. I had to. I gave myself no other choice but to succeed and because of that, I did.

3. Find Inspiration

Watch videos or talk to people who have achieved the fitness goals that you’re pursuing. When you see or hear story after story of people just like you who were able to transform their body, you will begin to have faith and confidence that you can do the same.

I remember watching this video over and over of people who used to be skinny and what they went through to get the body they have. It was just so inspiring. It made me believe 100% that I could reach my goals as well. My motivation to workout was through the roof.

Another thing you can do is to workout with a friend or group of friends. Now, keep in mind that it’s important to pick someone who has a strong desire. If you have a lazy friend, well, I'm sure you know how that'll go.

4. Understand The Why

One of the things I did that really helped was instead of just going blindly into some diet program or workout regimen, I studied why I needed to do the things I needed to do. I read books on how the human body works as well as how nutrition works. By understanding WHY you have to do what you need to do, you’re more likely to do it because you understand the importance of it.

It’s easy to skip a critical step just because you don’t fully understand the reasoning behind it. If I told you, to lose weight, you have to eat more frequently but didn’t tell you why, you might not do it since it may not make sense to you.

It’s not a must that you study the why behind everything, but it will definitely help.

5. Prepare for Excuses

Excuses will come up. Just know that it will and things will be a lot easier. For instance, I knew that having to wake up early in the morning, when it’s cold and rainy outside, just to go to the gym and workout would be a challenge. I knew that when I get together with friends and family, there would be the urge to eat whatever fatty foods they were eating. (I gained weight through cutting out fats and all unhealthy foods in order to gain healthy weight.)

When your motivation to workout is high, your mindset is different. You will get yourself to workout regardless of what’s holding you back. But during those times when your motivation to sleep or do something else is greater than your motivation to workout, you need to be prepared to deal with it by coming up with what you’ll do before it actually comes up.

What I did was write down a list of as many things that I could think of that would prevent me from either wanting to workout or eat the right foods. Then I came up with what I would do when those things (excuses) came up. I knew what to do when my mind said, "It’s so cold right now, just stay in bed, you can workout later" or "skipping one workout won’t make a difference". I was prepared.

You MUST be prepared to deal with these excuses when they come up.

6.Prepare for Setbacks

Your progress won’t be a straight diagonal line. It will slow down or even go in reverse at times. You may lose several pounds every week for a few weeks, then lose less for a few weeks, then lose none for a few weeks, and then gain a few pounds for a few weeks. Know that this is normal otherwise your motivation to workout may suffer.

I remember the week when I weighed myself and found that I actually lost a pound. Had I not been prepared for this, I may have been discouraged. But since I knew this would happen, it just made me more focused and determined.

When this happens, don’t get discouraged. This is where many people quit. Don’t let it happen to you. Keep going. Your progress will eventually turn back in your favor.

7. Preparation of Meals

One of the reasons why people will tend to overeat is because they are not prepared. I love eating fast food and junk food. But since I made a commitment to working out and eating healthy, I had to cut all of that out. My eating schedule was pretty straight forward.

I ate 6 meals a day, one every 3 hours. In the past, when it came time to eat, I would normally just make something and eat it. I found that this doesn’t work very well because there a many times when I don’t know what to eat and end up going to a fast food joint to grab a burger.

So what I did to prevent that was to prepare my meals in advance. Basically, I knew what I was going to eat for each of the 6 meals everyday and prepared my meals to the point where all I had to do was heat up the food in the microwave and presto.

I set up my eating situation where it was easy. Even when at work, when meal time came... heat up food, eat. No thinking was involved, and that’s why it worked. Protein shakes or meal replacements help when eating a meal isn't convenient.

For losing weight, the same strategy applies. If you don’t know in advance what you’re going to eat, it will be easy and tempting to slip on your diet for "just one meal" and grab something you know you shouldn’t be eating. Preparation is key.

8. Measure Your Progress

Measure your progress on a weekly basis. I’m not just talking about your weight. I’m talking your body fat, about your arms, waist line, thighs, shoulders, chest, and calves. Also, keep track of your workouts. How many sets, how much weight, how long you ran for, etc. By keeping a measurement of everything, your motivation to workout will increase as you see those results.

Don’t be afraid to measure. Have confidence in yourself. You can do it. It just takes some time.

9. Anchor Feelings with Music and Celebration

On my way to the gym, I always listened to a certain song. On my way back home, I’d listen to another song. The reason I did this was to anchor the anticipation of working out to the first song and anchor the feeling to celebration to the second song.

By doing this, whenever I’m not in the mood to workout but go anyways, listening to the first song will get me into the state of anticipation for an intense workout. When I’m done, listening to the second song will get me into the state of excitement. While I listen to that song, I celebrate in order to anchor those good feelings to not only the song but to working out.

The song you choose doesn’t matter, what matters is the feeling it gives you.

10. Accept the New Lifestyle

You must accept this lifestyle change and be okay with it. Too often, people will start a workout with the intention of it being a temporary task. In order to make it a habit, you have to go into this with the mentality of Fit For Life.

Before I began my workout and diet change, I had to mentally be willing to make this a life long routine. I was willing to make the change because I made it clear in my mind that my new lifestyle is far more rewarding than my old lifestyle.

If this sounds like a big decision, well, it is. If you’re not willing to give up the life of sitting on the couch being inactive and eating junk food all day, than you shouldn’t be complaining about having low energy and a body that you don’t see fit. The decision to workout on a regular basis for the rest of your life is one of the best choices you can make.

The Secret to Effortless and Lasting Motivation to Workout is...

Make it a Habit

Do you think the people who consistently go to the gym have to struggle and force themselves to go each time? Fortunately, NO! Once you consistently workout long enough, your need for the motivation to workout becomes less. You will get to the point where you don’t even have to think about it. Working out will become natural.

This will take time. So your goal is to do whatever it takes to stick to your workout long enough for it to become a habit. Some people say it takes 30 days to form a habit. For some habits, that’s all it takes. It depends on the habit. For me, the habit of working out, where it’s no longer a struggle, where no motivation to workout is needed, took about 5-6 months.

If this sounds like a lot of hard work, then your desire just isn’t strong enough. At first I didn’t like it. After a while I got used to it. Now it’s just a part of my life. In fact, if I don’t workout, I feel uneasy and awkward, like there’s something missing in my life. Get to that point and you’ll have a hard time NOT working out. That is your goal.

Conclusion

It all comes down to disciplining until it becomes a habit. Do you have to do all the things I suggested above? No. What I discussed was what finally made it happen for me. All these strategies and tips are just to help you along the way.

The number one thing is having an intense desire. When your desire is strong enough, you’ll find a way to reach your goal no matter what.

In the beginning, it will be difficult to get accustomed to this new lifestyle. You will be sacrificing time to go workout. You will be sacrificing unhealthy foods you used to eat on a daily basis. Realize that these sacrifices are necessary.

The good news is that once you start seeing results, your desire for the old unhealthy lifestyle will decrease. You will get to the point where nothing will taste as good as being fit feels. You will see others who have the inactive lifestyle you used to have and think, "Wow, this was all worth it."

Lastly, when you reach your goals, you inspire others to reach theirs. When I gained that 25 pounds, believe me, people who knew me when I was skinny noticed. Even though most of them wanted to lose weight, seeing me gain weight gave them motivation to workout and reach their goals. Hopefully it has inspired you as well. And when you reach your fitness goals, hopefully others around you will be inspired by you and continue this ripple effect.

Do this for yourself and for your loved ones. This is one of the best habits that you can develop for your life.

How To Ensure Your Success In Achieving Your Goals

I came through this article some time back, n thought was worth some place in ma blog...here's it:

April 13th, 2009 by Kevin Ngo

Let me give you a strategy on how to ensure your success in whatever goal you may have that you’ve been failing to achieve. Whether or not you decide to do what I’m about to outline will give you a good indication of how committed you really are to achieving your goal.

If you know your goal is merely a wish rather than an absolute must, then you can stop reading this. If you’re completely serious about achieving your goal however, let’s continue with how to ensure your success.

What Causes Failure in the First Place

The number one challenge most people get into when pursuing a goal, is having to deal with and overcoming obstacles that stand in the way of obtaining the goal. That means if you are able to get through any setback that comes at you, assuming that you’re doing the right things, you will eventually achieve your goal.

So the secret to ensure your success is to figure out a way or set up a situation where no matter what obstacles show up, you will not give up until you reach your goal. The tools I have provided for you on my website will help motivate and inspire you to keep going even in the face of defeat after defeat. Different tools will work for different people.

What I am about to show you, however, will work for almost anyone, given that you are completely serious about achieving your goal.

Step 1

The first thing I’d like you to do is have your one specific goal in front of you. Actually write it down either on paper or in a word document.

Okay, so now that you have your goal in front of you, I’d like you to ask yourself a question. Do you believe you can actually achieve it? Being serious about achieving a goal and believing you can achieve it are two different things. In order to achieve you goals, you must have both. I will be writing about how to increase your beliefs in another article, but for now, I want to give you the strategy to help make your motivation last in order to ensure your success.

You know that at the beginning of any pursuit of a goal is usually the time when your motivation and drive is the highest. Of course, as time goes by, as you are met with failure after failure, your motivation will tend to decrease. Sooner or later you may get to the point where you start to reconsider your goal or just outright quit.

So how do you keep going towards your goals even when things get tough and your motivation level plummets? Let me ask you this. Are people more likely to make it on time for an important appointment or to some unimportant party? This may sound like a silly question but it ties into the answer that will ensure your success in achieving your goal which is…

You must put yourself on the line!

Here’s what I mean. You must make the consequences of not achieving your goal more painful than staying on course.

Think about a time when you told yourself you were going to do something but ended up procrastinating or just not getting it done. How did you feel? Perhaps a bit disappointed in yourself? Or maybe you just shrugged it off.

Now think of a time when you gave someone your word, you promised someone you would do something, but you didn’t. How did that feel compared to the first situation? I’m willing to bet that if you’re a person who values your integrity and reputation then either you felt 100 times worse or you’ve simply never gone back on your word so this wouldn’t apply to you.

There are several ways to put yourself on the line in order to ensure your success. All of them involve someone else other than just you. Yes, you have to make your goal public. Here are a few tips.

How to Put Yourself On The Line

1. Make Your Consequences Public

Tell a group of your friends or family, preferably people who you know will support you instead of put you down, what you intend to achieve and by when AND what you will do if you don’t achieve it. The consequence you come up with has to be big enough that you will do whatever it takes, within moral and ethical boundaries of course, to achieve your goal.

Now for some of you, just telling your close friends and family that you will achieve your goal is enough to propel you into constant action because the embarrassment of not achieving your goal would be too much for you to handle.

For the rest of you, your consequence should be something that will put you in a situation where it would be unfathomable for you to quit because the pain of staying on track would be heaven compared to the consequence of quitting. Putting yourself in this situation will help ensure your success.

2. Make It Uncomfortable

Let’s say your goal is to lose weight. You could give all your clothes away besides 2-3 outfits. So until you reach your goal, you will be forced to wear the same outfits over and over again.

3. Make It Financial

You could go further. Let’s say your goal is to quit smoking. You would announce to all of your friends that you have decided to quit. Now your consequence would be that every time one of them catches you smoking, you have to give each of them $100. The amount has to be something that you REALLY don’t want to have to pay, otherwise it won’t create enough pain for you to keep away from the cigarettes. You will just end up saying, "Oh hell, I’ll just pay the money!"

4. Make It Embarrassing

Let’s take it even further. Let’s say your goal is to sell a certain amount of volume for the quarter that’s achievable if you got yourself to do what you had to do. You’ve been struggling with this for a while and it’s because you couldn’t get yourself to make those sales calls. The consequence of not following through could be that you have to sleep in the car for a week and of course, the whole sales office would know about this.

5. Make It Disastrous

Let’s take it one step further. Let’s say your goal is to make your failing marriage work. The only problem is you have a bad temper problem which is the main cause of the failing marriage. So your goal would actually be to not blow up every time something goes wrong. Your consequence would be to just sign the divorce papers and end the relationship and suffer losing your loved ones.


Some of you may read these consequences and automatically chicken out. You may be thinking that there’s no way you’re going to put yourself through the embarrassment or possibility of financial loss. If you’re thinking this, then what’s that say about your commitment level towards your goal?

If you really want to ensure your success in achieving a goal you have tried many times but failed at obtaining, you must put yourself on the line. Until you create a situation where you will have massive pain for NOT achieving your goal, you will more than likely come up with excuses and justifications to quit.

Step 2

Write down under your goal what the consequence will be if you don’t achieve your goal.

The consequences above are just examples. Come up with what will work for you. Some people don’t care about losing money. Some won’t mind the embarrassment. You know your own hot buttons so make a consequence that you will do almost anything to avoid. When you make that level of commitment to your goal, you will ensure your success in achieving them.

Step 3

Make a copy of it and give it to everyone who’s involved. This will further your commitment to your goal and ensure your success.

Step 4

The final step is to update your progress to the people you announced your goal to every week. This will help ensure your success because it’ll keep you focused and accountable especially if this is a goal that will take longer than a few months to achieve.


So there you have it. If you actually do this (stats show that most of you reading this won’t), you will prove to yourself your seriousness and commitment in making your life the way you want it. You will be part of the few who actually goes out and make their dreams a reality instead of just talking about it. Show the world and prove to yourself what you’re truly made of.

As an added step, in the comments section below, tell me and everyone else reading this article what your goal is and when you are committed to achieving it by. Again, making it public will help ensure your success.

Here is my personal goal.

I will write and submit 100 articles within the next 60 days. I started today so my deadline date will be June 12th, 2009. There's 3 old articles on there right now and it takes up to a week for the articles to be approved and published.

The consequence I have for NOT achieving this goal would be to shut down this website.

To be honest, it took me a few minutes to write the consequence down. I’m actually shaking a bit. Part of it is fear of failure but part of it is also excitement.

Something crazy just happened. After writing my commitment and consequence down and after the initial shakes went away, this feeling of resolve just came over me. I had this intention for about a week now and started on it today but had some doubts. Now, I have no doubts. I have absolute confidence I will complete this goal.

My other goal, well, more like a task, is to join a Toast Masters Club. I will be attending a meeting sometime this month.

Update (4/30/09) I have decided to take a different approach. No, I am not backing down from my goal. In fact, I am actually doing way more than I said I would. I'm at about 60 articles right now with 12 days left until the half way mark.

At the current rate that I'm going at, I will actually achieve my goal of writing 100 articles in 30 days instead 60 days as originally planned. The public announcement of the consequences did a great job of getting me to take massive action. This stuff works if you actually do it.

The link to the directory above currently only shows 8 new articles. I have the rest stored on my laptop. I'll be submitting more of them there, but I'm readjusting my strategy. It's always good to check your results and adjust your actions. Doing what doesn't work over and over again just doesn't make sense.

I'm actually submitting my articles to multiple sites so it's going to be hard to keep track of everything. I guess you'll just have to take my word for it.

I'm planning to put all of the articles I write in an ebook format perhaps. That way, all my readers check out the stuff I've been writing. Well, that's all for the update. You can email if you have any questions or better yet, leave a comment. Thanks. Hope your goals are going well.

Dealing with Criticism

Dealing with criticism is something that we all have to face. One of the toughest challenges when going after a dream is to have people laugh at and ridicule you. Having to deal with setbacks and challenges when pursuing a goal is hard enough, so when you have people who basically tell you to give up and stop dreaming, it just adds to the difficulty. Countless people have given up on their dreams because someone told them they couldn't succeed. Has this ever happened to you?

It would be great to have a support group where everyone is encouraging and completely believes in your ability to achieve your goals but not everyone is that lucky. I know I've been told plenty of times that I would never be successful at anything and that I need to quit dreaming. Dealing with criticism is a lot easier when people who you don't really care about tell you stuff like this, but when you have people who should be supporting you say those things, it can really be a huge blow to your confidence.

Well, that's life. When you set a goal, obstacles will start showing up. For some people, they will give up even before they get started because they take their critic's opinions to be the truth.

Why People Criticize

There are a couple of reasons why people would even criticize your dreams. The first reason is because they don't want to see you get disappointed which really just means they don’t believe you can do it. The second reason is because they don’t want to be left behind so subconsciously, they want you the fail. The third reason is because… they really do want you to fail. So how do you deal with people who tell you that you will not and cannot succeed in reaching your goals?

Dealing with Criticism

To find out, let's look at what successful people do. You would think that most of them have a ton of support from people left and right. You'd probably be surprised to find that most of them have had people discourage them. In Thomas J. Stanley's best selling book, "The Millionaire Mind", he interviews a bunch of millionaires to try to find out if there are any commonalities between them in order to know what it takes to become a millionaire. One of the questions he asks them is how they handle critics.

Here are some of the things that these millionaires were told.

  • "You will never succeed."
  • "Your business idea is the dumbest thing I've ever heard"
  • "Without a college degree, you have no chance of being successful in life."
  • "There is just no hope for you ever succeeding."
  • "Your family is poor. Your dad is poor. What makes you think you can be rich?"

So how did these millionaires deal with criticism and comments like these? They either ignore it or use it to help drive them even harder to succeed in order to prove those critics wrong. There is a saying, "Success is the sweetest revenge." This is what drives many of them, to see the looks on their critics' faces when they become successful. Who knows how many millions of people had given up on their dreams just because someone criticized them. People who don't believe in you will always be plentiful. Just see it as part of the game. Without obstacles, success wouldn't taste as good.

The worst time to have someone criticize your dreams is when you are in the middle of a setback. Why? Because you are more open to actually believe what they are saying to you. These are those moments when your confidence is usually at its lowest so dealing with criticism is the toughest during these times. Add to that the "I told you so's" of critics and you have the ingredients for the perfect dream killer. Whether or not you will achieve your goals will largely depend on how well you can hold onto the belief you have in yourself when times are tough. This is why it helps tremendously to surround yourself with people who will encourage you during these times.

Opinions Are Just Opinions

When dealing with criticism, you must realize that people's opinions of you are just that, opinions. Just because someone tells you they don’t think you will ever amount to anything, it doesn't mean they are right. You must develop unshakable confidence and belief in yourself. There are tons of successful people who have been told they are a piece of crap their whole lives. Like the millionaires mentioned earlier, you must learn to either ignore those opinions or use it to work even harder and give you more reason to not give up.

It's only when you start to doubt yourself and believe what they say, will their opinion of you start to shape your reality. Don't let this happen. Don't give them the satisfaction of being right.

What Do They Know?

There was a story of a boy who had a project where he had to draw a future house. He ended up drawing a ranch. When the teacher saw his drawing, she told him that he had to redo it because it was ridiculous to think that a boy from a poor family like him would ever become successful enough to own a ranch. He never redid the project. He turned it in as it was because that was his dream. She gave him an F for it.

Years later, he invited that teacher and her current students on a field trip. The field trip was to his beautiful ranch. When the teacher saw how successful he had become, she apologized to him and wondered just how many kids' dreams she may have destroyed because she taught she could predict someone's future just by looking at their current conditions.

The Future is Still Unwritten

The story probably isn't exactly the way I just wrote it. I forgot the name of the story/book so I just wrote it from what I remembered, but the basic lesson is the same. Too many times, people will look at you for who you are today and try to predict where you will be 10 years from today. The problem with doing that is that a lot can change in just 1 year, let alone 10 years. What you have demonstrated up until today has little to do with what you can achieve and accomplish a year from today.

Tony Robbins said it best when he said, "The past does not equal the future." You can fail for the last 30 or 50 years of your life and it still wouldn't matter in terms of what you can accomplish in the future. Who would have guessed at the time that a man who failed so many times in his life from business failure to political failure would become our 16th president? Who would have guessed at the time that a young woman with such bad circumstances would grow up to be one of the most powerful women in the world from doing a talk show?

Who you are today has little to do with who you can become in the future because you can decide to take actions today that will lead you down an entirely different path than you were previously heading. Don't let other people's opinion of you make you doubt yourself because if you do, you are letting them control your fate. The decisions you make and actions you take is what will determine whether or not your dreams will become a reality.

Here is one of my favorite quotes by Les Brown that sums it up.

"Someone else's opinion of you does not have to become your reality."

The next time someone tries to predict your future, tell them to use their "special abilities" to pick the winning lottery numbers. That should tell you just how accurate their silly predictions are.

Saturday, May 16, 2009

A rose that once stood alone......

ROSES

A solitary rose grew
in the darkest corner of the garden
Surrounded by many others
Yet remained alone

Time passed and trials came and went
One dealt a severe blow
And the rose began to wilt and wither
Forgotten…Then… as if by a miracle.

There came a soft and gentle breeze
Followed by a ray of light
As all the other roses fell into darkness
The solitary rose began to shine

Shining with a special light…
And watered by a gentle cascade…
A cascade of love
A cascade of selfless affection

“I do… not now but forever…”
Said the rose to the sunlight
And there they remain
A rose in full bloom
With her sunshine smiling down on her

You are my sunshine, my life, my very soul
And I your rose blooming in the light of your love.

Life is no bed of roses

Life is no bed of roses
For roses have thorns, you see,
But handling with care and balance
Will protect from injury.
All gardens have seasons of beauty
Where the flowers of our living grow
With colours and shapes aplenty
Sweet fragrance to bestow.
Life’s flowers need careful tending
For all life needs sun and rain,

And Love and Faith unending
For Hope to flower again!

Bookends of Life.... :)

We have two bookends
A beginning and an end
The things amid have filled the gaps
Whereby, our lives do blend.

The volumes which are written
Reveals the light of men
The print upon the pages
Contain the breath within.

The chapters stack so neatly
Are bounded at the seams
And filled with aspirations
Our failures and our dreams.

The many happy chapters
Hold sorrow in between
The valleys and the mountains
Are parts of life’s great scheme.

The fiber of our being
Is glue that makes it stick
The text that fills the pages
Are choices we did pick.

It takes a set of book ends
To make one’s life complete
The content comes together
When both the ends do meet.

One day upon completion
Our lives will be made whole
When Jesus reads our memoir
The mirror to our soul.

We cannot change the content
Once written, nevermore
It’s stored amongst God’s archives
Upon that golden shore.


Written by:
Marilyn Ferguson

~Words From My Heart~

~Words are the only reason for a reason to be happened ~~

~Life is what we see, Living is what we do..
You should SEE what you DO.. .. ~~

~The first step to start learning is to learn how to start.. ~~

~There will be needed a single friend to motivate you.. when you have been unmotivated by 1000 others..
So it is as difficult to find such a friend. ~~

~‘Best’ may not be best word of English still we call it BEST ~~

~Don’t end every msg you give written with ‘PEACE’.. better end the reason because of which you are needed to write ‘PEACE’ ~~

~Destiny :: The most beautiful girl u find in a marriage function is the one who’s marrying {Bride} ~~

~!ƒ μ thiπκ šΘmεthiπg iš !mρΘššiblε :: мακε it ρΘššiblε μгšεlƒ ~~

~шαπt šΘmεthiπg 2 bε ∂Θπε ρεгƒε¢tlŷ : ÐΘ it μгšεlƒ.. ~~

Friday, May 15, 2009

Believe while others ….

Believe while others are doubting.

Plan while others are playing.

Study while others are sleeping.

Decide while others are delaying.

Prepare while others are daydreaming.

Begin while others are procrastinating.

Work while others are wishing.

Save while others are wasting.

Listen while others are talking.

Smile while others are frowning.

Commend while others are criticizing.

Persist while others are quitting.

The Best Moments In Life

1. Falling in love. 
2. Laughing till your stomach hurts.
3. Enjoying a ride down the Country side.
4. Listening to your favorite song on the radio.
5. Going to sleep listening to the rain pouring outside.
6. Getting out of the shower and wrapping yourself with a warm, fuzzy towel.
7. Passing your final exams with good grades.
8. Being part of an interesting conversation.
9. Finding some money in some old pants.
10. Laughing at yourself.
11. Sharing a wonderful dinner with all your friends.
12. Laughing without a reason.
13. "Accidentally" hearing someone say something good about you.
14. Watching the sunset.
15. Listening to a song that reminds you of an important person in your life.
16. Receiving or giving your first kiss.
17. Feeling this movement in your body when seeing this "special" someone.
18. Having a great time with your friends.
19. Seeing the one you love happy.
20. Wearing the shirt of a person you love and smelling his/her perfume.
21. Visiting an old friend of yours and remembering great memories.
22. Hearing some telling you "I LOVE YOU"

True friends come in the good times when we tell them to, and come in
the bad times.....without calling."

Good thoughts

Before you think of saying an unkind word
Think of someone who can't speak

Before you complain about the taste of your food
Think of someone who has nothing to eat

Before you complain about your husband or wife
Think of someone who's crying out to God for a companion

Today before you complain about life
Think of someone who went too early to heaven
Before you complain about your children
Think of someone who desires children but they're barren

Before you argue about your dirty house; someone didn't clean or sweep
Think of the people who are living in the streets

Before whining about the distance you drive
Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet

And when you are tired and complain about your job
Think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another
Remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down
Put a smile on your face and thank God you're alive and still around

Life is a gift
Live it...
Enjoy it...
Celebrate it...
And fulfill it.

Never be late

A parish priest was being honored at a dinner on the twenty-fifth anniversary of his arrival in that parish. A leading local politician, who was a member of the congregation, was chosen to make the presentation and give a little speech at the dinner, but he was delayed in traffic, so the priest decided to say his own few words while they waited.


"You will understand," he said, "the seal of the confessional, can never be broken. However, I got my first impressions of the parish from the first confession I heard here. I can only hint vaguely about this, but when I came here twenty-five years ago I thought I had been assigned to a terrible place. The very first chap who entered my confessional told me how he had stolen a television set, and when stopped by the police, had almost murdered the officer. Further, he told me he had embezzled money from his place of business and had an affair with his boss's wife.


I was appalled. But as the days went on I knew that my people were not all like that, and I had, indeed come to, a fine parish full of understanding and loving people."

Just as the priest finished his talk, the politician arrived full of apologies at being late. He immediately began to make the presentation and give his talk.


"I'll never forget the first day our parish priest arrived in this parish,"

said the politician. "In fact, I had the honour of being the first one to go to him for confession."

Moral: NEVER EVER BE LATE

Reality of Life ......!!!!!!!

This is a story of four people called Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and Nobody.

There was some important work that had to be done, and Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it. Somebody got angry because of this, since it was Everybody's job. Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but Nobody understood that Everybody wouldn't do it. It ended with Everybody blaming Somebody as Nobody did what Anybody could have done.

Somethings not to do

  • Don't attempt to run from the past, it is always behind you.
  • Don't be afraid of opposition; Remember a kite rises against, not with the wind.
  • Don't be afraid of tomorrow, for God has already been there.
  • Don't be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.
  • Don't be angry at a friend who told your secret, for neither could you keep it to yourself
  • Don't be concerned others not appreciating you. Be concerned about your not appreciating others (Confucius).
  • Don't be irreplaceable -- if you can't be replaced, you won't be promoted.
  • Don't be so Heavenly minded that you do no earthly good.
  • Don't control, be in control.
  • Don't count the days, make the days count. (Mohammed Ali)
  • Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.
  • Don't ever slam a door- you may want to go back.
  • Don't fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things.
  • The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have,might have, and should have.
  • (Louis E. Boone)
  • Don't get good at doing something if you don't like doing it.
  • Don't get married only because of the money. You can borrow it cheaper.
  • Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.
  • Don't just get something out of church, put something into it.
  • Don't kill the dream - execute it!
  • Don't learn the tricks of the trade, learn the trade.
  • Don't let anybody walk through your mind with dirty feet. (Gandhi)
  • Don't let people drive you crazy when it is within walking distance.
  • Don't let time take control of your destiny.Let your destiny take control of your time.
  • (Ulrick Ricardo Milord)
  • Don't let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.
  • (John Wooden)
  • Don't let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future.
  • Don't limit your challenges - challenge your limits.
  • Don't listen to what I say; listen to what I mean.
  • Don't love the things! you own, lest they own you.
  • Don't measure your life by how many breaths you take, measure it by how many times you get your breath taken away.
  • Don't pray for easy lives; pray to be stronger people.

How to look busy

1. Never walk down the hall without a document in your hands.
People with documents in their hands look like hardworking employees heading for important meetings.
People with nothing in their hands look like they're heading for the cafeteria. People with a newspaper in their hand look like they're heading for the toilet.
Above all, make sure you carry loads of stuff home with you at night, thus generating the false impression that you work longer hours than you do.

2. Use computers to look busy.
Any time you use a computer, it looks like "work" to the casual observer. You can send and receive personal e-mail, calculate your finances and generally have a blast without doing anything remotely related to work.
When you get caught by your boss -and you *will* get caught - your best defense is to claim you're teaching yourself to use new software, thus saving valuable training expenses.

3. Messy desk.
Build huge piles of documents around your workspace.
To the observer, last year's work looks the same as today's work; it's volume that counts.
Pile them high and wide. If you know somebody is coming to your cubicle, bury the document you'll need halfway down in an existing stack and rummage for it when he/she arrives.

4. Voice Mail.
Never answer your phone if you have voice mail. People don't call you just because they want to give you something for nothing – they call because they want YOU to do work for THEM. That's no way to live.
If your voice mailbox has a limit on the number of messages it can hold, make sure you reach that limit frequently. One way to do that is to never erase any incoming messages. If that takes too long, send yourself a few messages. Your callers will hear a recorded message that says, "Sorry, this mailbox is full" - a sure sign that you are a hardworking employee in high demand.

5. Looking Impatient and Annoyed.
One should also always try to look impatient and annoyed to give your bosses the impression that you are always busy.

6. Appear to Work Late.
Always leave the office late, especially when the boss is still around. You could read magazines and storybooks that you always wanted to read, but have no time until late before leaving.

7. Creative Sighing for Effect.
Sigh loudly when there are many people around, giving the impression that you are very hard pressed.

8. Stacking Strategy.
It is not enough to pile lots of documents on the table. Put lots of books on the floor etc... You can always borrow from library. Thick computer manuals are the best.

9. Build Vocabulary.
Read up on some computer magazines and pick out all the jargon and new products.
Use it freely when in conversation with bosses. Remember: They don't have to understand what you say, but you sure sound impressive.

10. MOST IMPORTANTLY: DON'T forward this to your boss by mistake!!!

Indians are too intelligent

Maaanna hi padega indians are too intelligent.....


After digging to a depth of 100 metres last year,
Russian scientists found
traces of copper wire dating back 1000 years, and
came to the conclusion
that their ancestors already had a telephone
network one thousand years
ago.

So, not to be outdone, in the weeks that followed,
American scientists dug
200 metres and headlines in the US papers read:
"US scientists have found traces of 2000 year old
optical fibres, and have
concluded that their ancestors already had
advanced high-tech digital
telephone 1000 years earlier than the Russians."

One week later, the Indian newspapers reported the
following:
"After digging as deep as 500 metres, Indian
scientists have found
absolutely nothing. They have concluded that 5000
years ago, their
ancestors were already using wireless technology .

"Seven Blunders of the World" - By Gandhi

Gandhi's "Seven Blunders of the World" That Lead to Violence

The Seven Blunders of the World is a list that Mahatma Gandhi gave to his grandson Arun Gandhi, written on a piece of paper, on their final day together, not too long before his assassination. In his final years, the elder Gandhi kept his grandson close at hand and set aside an hour every day to be alone with the boy.

Blunders of the World


Wealth without work
Pleasure without conscience
Knowledge without character
Commerce without morality
Science without humanity
Worship without sacrifice
Politics without principle

44 Desi traits

44 Ways to Know whether U R a Indian or Not - Facts
Pretty amusing...but mostly true and interesting.
Guess at least some of
them are common globally also though...
Read this it's really cool , dont be suprised if you
can picture some
friends and relations when you read these .
You are Indian if...
1. Everything you eat is savored In garlic, onion
and tomatoes.
2. You try and reuse gift wrappers, gift boxes, and
of course aluminum foil.
3. You try to eject food particles from between your
teeth by pressing
your tongue against them and making a peculiar noise
like, tshick,
tshick, tschick, tschick.
4. You are standing next to the two largest size
suitcases at the Airport.
5. You arrive one or two hours late to a party - and
think its normal.
6. You peel the stamps off letters that the Postal
Service missed to mark up.
7. You recycle Wedding Gifts.
8. You name your children in rhythms (example, Honey
Money, madhu, wadhu, Sita &Gita, Ram & Shyam.
9. All your children have pet names, which sound
nowhere close to their
real names.
10. You take Indian snacks anywhere it says "No Food
Allowed"
11. You talk for an hour at the front door when
leaving someone's house.
12. You load up the family car with as many people
as possible.
13. You use plastic to cover anything new in your
house whether it's the
remote control, VCR, carpet or new couch.
14. Your parents tell you to not care what your
friends think but they
won't let you do certain things because of what the
other "Uncles And
Aunties" will think.
15. You buy and display crockery, which is for
special occasions, which
never happen.
16. You have a vinyl tablecloth on your kitchen
table.
17. You use grocery bags to hold garbage.
18. You keep leftover food in your fridge in as many
numbers of bowls as possible.
19. Your kitchen shelf is full of jam jars,
varieties of bowls and
plastic utensils (got free with some household
items).
20. You carry a stash of your own food whenever you
travel (and travel means any car ride longer than 15 minutes).
21. You own a rice cooker or a pressure cooker.
22. You fight over who pays the dinner bill.
23. You majored in engineering, medicine or law and
now........are after
Software and only Software no matter which field you
belong to.
24. You live with your parents and you are 40 years
old. (And they prefer it that way).
25. You don't use measuring cups when cooking.
26. You feel like you've gotten a good deal if you
didn't pay tax.
27. You never learnt how to stand in a queue.
28. You can only travel if there are 5 persons at
least to see you off
or receive you whether you are traveling by bus,
train or plane.
29. If she is NOT your daughter, you always take
interest in knowing
whose daughter has run with whose son and feel proud
to spread it at the
velocity of more than the speed of light.
30. You only make long distance calls after 11 p.m.
31. If you don't live at home, when your parents
call, they ask if
you've eaten, even if it's midnight.
32. You call an older person you never met before
"uncle."
33. When your parents meet strangers and talk for a
few minutes, you
discover you're talking to a distant cousin.
34. Your parents don't realise phone connections to
foreign countries
have improved in the last two decades, and still
scream at the top of
their lungs when making foreign calls.
35. You have bed sheets on your sofas so as to keep
them away from getting dirty.
36. When dining out, you think Rs 10 is enough of a
tip.
37. It's embarrassing if your wedding has less than
600 people.
38. You list your daughter as "fair and slim" in
the matrimonial no matter what she looks like.
39. You treat the NRI persons (especially from
America) as if they are
the only persons living in this world (including YOU).
40. You've seen the ground while inside the lavatory
of a train.(This one really got me!! You too huh??)
41. All your tupperware is stained with food color.
42. You have drinking glasses made of steel.
43. You have mastered the art of bargaining in shopping.
44. You have really enjoyed reading this mail.

45 .indians always do mistake's b4 knowing it...coz
they think they r big braine fellow's in the world ..but they
not.........

Top Explanations by Programmers

  • Strange...
  • I've never heard about that.
  • It did work yesterday.
  • How is this possible?
  • The machine seems to have a malfunction.
  • Has the operating system been updated?
  • The user has made an error again.
  • There is something wrong in your data.
  • I have not touched that module!
  • You must have the wrong executable.
  • Oh, it's just a feature.
  • Of course, I just have to do these small fixes.
  • It will be done in no time at all.
  • It's just some unlucky coincidense.
  • I can't test everything!
  • THIS can't do THAT.
  • Didn't I fix it already?
  • It's already there, but it has not been tested.
  • Somebody must have changed my code.
  • There must be a virus in the application software.
  • This time it will surely run.
  • I just found the last bug.
  • Bug? That's not a bug, that's a feature.
  • According to my calculations the problem doesn't exist.

A story of LOVE & EGO.........

Once upon a time there was an island
where all the feelings lived together
there was a storm in the sea one day

and the island was about to get drowned

every feeling was scared but not love
love made a boat to escape
every feeling boarded in the boat

only one feeling was left
love got down
to see who was it
it was ego...
love tried and tried but ego wasn't moving.......
also the water was rising
every one asked love to leave him and come into the boat, but love was made to love.
all feeling escaped and the storm took over island, at last love dies with ego on the island...

Love dies because of ego......